When you first start recovery there’s A LOT to deal with – every second of every day – battling negative thoughts, spiraling emotions, wanting to give up and go back to the disorder, fighting your body as it changes, fear, anxiety, sleeplessness, discomfort, doubt…
Recovery can feel like falling apart. There are lots of slips and setbacks, but each one teaches you something about yourself, your triggers, and new strategies for the future. You come to realise that even if a book or therapist tells you “X,Y,Z will help you stop a binge” you must figure out if that’s true for you. Each small setback has tremendous value when you keep the bigger picture in mind …
Over time, the victories will pile on top of each other, like bricks – and you’ll have built a new foundation of how you view yourself, food, and the world at large
It means you don’t say ‘do it for me’. This only increases the guilt and worthless feelings a person with an eating disorder has - because they can’t comply.
IT IS NOT ABOUT YOU and WHAT YOU WANT the person to do. They just need support and care. When they are ready and able they will be able to do it for themselves, which is far more important and worthwhile.